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harmony in the face of disharmony

How easy is it for you to express yourself in the face of someone reacting? To bring up a difficult subject even knowing it might create separation instead of connection? Do you care? Do you speak anyway? Do you withhold, praying ‘if I ignore it, it will go away’?

One of my fears is I will hold back and not speak my truth, to appear to be agreeable, in order to ‘maintain the peace’ and avoid conflict. If I am withholding to maintain peace, then that means I am seeking the guise of harmony through disharmony within myself…not true harmony…nor is it being honest. If I speak my truth, even when it is difficult and I express myself as consciously as I can, it is possible the other person might still react in a disharmonious way based on their perception.

I understand I am not responsible for their reaction, but somewhere along the way I got it wired that I will pay for speaking my truth. That I will be treated poorly. That I will be shut out…abandoned. That I will somehow be punished…persecuted…you get the picture. All that mind frick is from the past. Not the present.

The truth in this present moment is that when I am honest, even fearing the worst, I feel better about myself. When I feel better about myself I am feeling harmonious. Sure that’s not to say that fear doesn’t come up, or that my heart isn’t pounding in the face of that fear. What it means is I do it despite my fear. I create harmony within myself by living up to my commitments and being in my integrity.

Feeling the reward of that, I recognize it is worth taking the chance. Even so, speaking up will sometimes create discord at first. Rest assured, the discord won’t last forever and I know I will be respected for it long after, beginning now with self-respect. So, I take the chance, put the ghosts to rest, speak my truth and live in harmony within myself.

What about you? Are you willing to take the chance to be authentic and live in harmony within yourself?

the Truth behind harmony

The face of harmony isn’t always pretty. It doesn’t always appear loving or kind. The face of harmony is multi-faceted; it is through accepting duality in this world that we can truly embrace harmony.

sound harmonics—healing or detriment?

On a group email list I belong to, someone brought up the topic of heavy rock music and rap being unhealthy. As I was reading the email, I realized that my experience of those genres of music was a bit different. I also reflected on some other teachings I have been exposed to.

I studied Sound Energy Healing a few years ago. I asked the teacher what he thought about heavy metal and rap and how it’s vibration affected us. He suggested it is what the person believes that will give them the results. Basically, we give something it’s meaning. Our experience of certain sounds, determine our reaction to them.

Since then I have reflected on this teaching and I have heard it supported in A Course in Miracles with “You give it it’s meaning”. I have heard it expressed as “energy follows thought” in Esoteric Healing class. I have heard variations of that teaching with Law of Attraction and Quantum Physics. And even Peak Potentials has a version of it: “my thoughts, equal my feelings, which lead to my actions which give me my results.”

I respect and value Dr. Emoto’s studies: What the Bleep!?: Water Crystals, Miraculous Messages of Water, and Conscious Water Crystals, The Power of Prayer with the water tests, yet I am careful to note that those tests were a direct result of his and his colleagues’ experience. His thoughts equaled his feelings, which led to his actions and his results. I also believe in peace and that prayer affects life energy, so I believe much of the findings he came to. Those are my beliefs though, which have come through my experience and reflections.

What I have found is there are times when listening to heavy rock has helped me to move energy along that I was having difficulty moving out before. I believe music helps to shift and connect to innate primitive energy just like the heavy drumbeats, dance and ceremony of indigenous cultures were used.

In my life I have seen where there is value in many different kinds of music, sound and vibrations. I have also seen how as my vibration changes I am more sensitive to others. In other words as my experiences in life change and my vibration shifts, I find I am more attracted to people and music that feeds my soul differently. This isn’t to say that I still don’t find value in heavy rock and some rap, and some of my long-time relationships even though we are different.

What about you? What kind of music fills you with harmony? What music helps to shift pent up energy and allow more harmony in your day?

our own authority

A while ago, I saw something that bothered me. It was a billboard for a local hospital. It read—“two weeks after a hysterectomy” with the hospital’s name—it was advertising some new surgery technique. The problem I had with this was the image. The woman in the advertisement was carrying an older child on her back, who weighed approximately 40-50 pounds in my estimation.

Now I have had several major surgeries, not a hysterectomy, but surgery none-the-less. And I have known many women who have had a hysterectomy and I know they were not ready to vacuum, let alone carry a 40-pound anything on their back within two weeks time. I also don’t know of any doctors who recommend carrying much for a lot longer than two weeks.

The point I am getting to is this…why are we promoting as a society an expectation of all women who have a hysterectomy that they will be up and about, swinging a small child around on their back? One thing that takes away my harmony is when I feel like I am being told that I need to live up to some expectation that isn’t realistic for me, my body, my family, my whatever.

This was a personal lesson I learned—to take responsibility for what I am feeling and take care of myself, not letting anyone or anything be my own authority. I know my body best and I can say that walking a mile to the post office after a laparoscopy and major abominable repair wasn’t in my best interest, but I was told “you should be able to do it”. I did it because I believed their judgment over mine. I ended up extending my recovery by several days because I didn’t follow what my own body was telling me—“lay down on the couch, take it easy, sleep, rest, relax, take time off, take care of me”. The messages are there for all of us, and hopefully we learn to listen to them.

What is your body telling you? Are you chronically sick in your current relationship? Are you pushing yourself because something is ‘telling’ you to? Are you listening to someone’s assessment instead of your own body?

My experience happened almost 20 years ago. I can say if I were told something like that now, I would be my own authority. I would first listen to my body, then I would check in with the rest of me and stay home on the couch. The mail can wait.

strategizing, building, committing

These past many months have been about getting the business, Earth Wisdom Harmonics, up and running. We have strategized the purpose and vision of the business and have been building the web sites it will represent. We are committing to more blogs…on a regular basis…so keep in touch. The time has come! Earth Wisdom Harmonics is here!

the moment of truth

That’s the name of a game show on FOX in yesterday’s headlines. First, in case you’re like me and don’t watch much tv, the premise is a person is asked a bunch of personal questions while attached to a polygraph machine prior to the show. Then, in front of an audience, they are asked a question, the suspense mounts as they ‘ponder’ the answer…they finally give it, then another long drawn out suspense-filled pause, and then a voice from above announces whether they are telling the truth and then they get a cash reward. The point is for them to answer these questions in front of their loved ones with the questions getting harder and harder as the stakes go up. And this week, one family found out how far those stakes went.

I didn’t see that show, but there are plenty of places to read about it on the net. I did watch a couple of minutes of it the first week it came out though. At that time I remember asking myself the question, do I tell the truth in my life? What would others not know about me? Are there any skeletons in the closet? How honest am I with myself? What about you, are you completely honest with everyone about everything in your life? Are you honest with yourself? Chances are probably not.

For most of us, honesty is a strong value we strive to live by…and it’s one of the most challenging. Have you ever been asked “how are you?” and it was just easier to say ‘ok’, ‘pretty good’, ‘not bad’, when in fact last night you and your partner got into a huge fight and you hardly slept and are feeling anxious. That’s one way we don’t tell the truth. Or maybe it is just easier to hide those CDs you bought or not tell your partner you’re hanging out with friends after work.

Give yourself the challenge of being completely honest for a day. That means being completely honest with yourself too. How do you feel? What is your body telling you? Are you feeling sad, happy, disappointed, fed up, frustrated and not telling the truth? Are you stuffing any of those emotions and not being honest with yourself in any way. Are you being dishonest by remaining in a relationship that is not working….and worse yet, for the sake of the kids?

There are many areas of our life where we don’t tell the whole truth and nothing but the truth so help us. It’s important to be honest with the one’s we choose to be in relationship with and by that I also mean with ourselves. We say no when it is in our best interest. We ask for our 100%. We listen to ourselves and if we don’t feel like doing something we convey that. We listen and we act from a compassionate and loving space for ourselves first. Then acting from a place of compassion automatically happens with others. We can’t receive what we are not willing to give ourselves and accept about ourselves first.

It’s unfortunate what happened with that family from the show, but it is a good lesson for all of us in our lives. So, let’s not be quick to judge someone else’s lie. I believe we would all be a lot happier if we simply made choices that were in alignment with what was going on inside ourselves. If we simply were able to accept and embrace our own Truth and live from that place called integrity without compromising it for anyone or anything.

And wouldn’t it be wonderful to inspire others, through our actions, to also live in their Truth!

for love’s sake

How many times do we do things for love? for a cry for love?

I read once that love was a choice. I didn’t quite understand that at first, but as the years have gone on and I have meditated and contemplated love, I have come to understand what that means to me. One meaning is, I can either choose to feel love and open my heart or I can choose to guard my heart and feel fear. Both are valid emotions on the journey, both filled with gifts if we are willing to see them.

This day being the “official” day of love, brings these questions and contemplation to my mind. I know in my life when I have been motivated by my heart and when I have been motivated by my fear. The actions can be quite different, yet the desire the same…to have more love in my life. I believe at the core we all just want to belong, somewhere, somehow with a person or a group of people. We want to know that we are not alone and that we are cared about.

The problem, as I see it, with love is until we fully love and accept ourselves, it is difficult to receive love from another. We will continue to walk around feeling unloved and alone, even if we have many people in our lives. If we do not love and accept ourselves—all of ourselves, especially what we judge as negative or bad emotions—how do we expect to feel love from another? I believe all of who/what we are needs love.

One of the most profound experiences I have had on my path was at a time when I was filled with self-loathing and self-hate. I would even wake from dreams of self-deprecation. I judged myself mercilessly, including the feeling that it was so un-spiritual to hate myself. Then one night it occurred to me that maybe, just maybe, my hate wanted to be loved too. So I sat down with it across from me, it in it’s dark, heavy thickness and me unsure of where this was going.

I saw it and I opened my heart and I sent it love. I enveloped it in loving, divine light with no attachment. I didn’t judge it. I didn’t expect anything from it. I loved it. I listened and I learned. I learned more in that time about acceptance than at any other time in my life. I have to honestly say, from that day forward I do not feel self-hate the same way. I made peace with myself and built a bridge within.

On this day and every day, I wish the same for you…
May you build bridges of love within, so you may experience bridges of love with others!

astrology & market timing

I saw, Ray Merriman, a market analyst/astrologer give his Forecast for 2008 this weekend hosted by the Learning Center for Astrological Studies. He was discussing the economic, financial and political forecasts for this coming year. He pointed out cycles in the market, along with astrological cycles to anticipate possible fluctuations and shed light on the coming political arena. Fascinating stuff actually.

Astrology was respected as a science used for thousands of years to do just that in Egypt, Greece, India, the Mayan culture and many others. In this country we don’t see it as a science as much as wanting someone to tell us what to do, when our new love will come in, or how about that job. Astrology is not about giving over our power, it is about embracing it and understanding the supportive energy and possible challenges in our life based on intricate mathematical cycles.

Mr. Merriman’s talk combined two areas I am passionate about, investing and astrology. I have much more to learn, as I observed this weekend, but I have expanded my concept of astrology and how it can be applied in my life. It is a very useful tool not only for predicting cycles but inspiring compassion for humanity. I look forward to this coming year and receiving my financial abundance as it magnifies in this new light.

harmony interuptus

Work. Ugh. Not going the way I envisioned today and I found myself stressing (insert disharmony here) over something that happened at the office. Someone put their hand up to stop me from talking and explaining my process in the situation. I was triggered. Inside I was screaming…How dare he! I deserve to have my side heard too! I took a deep breath as I walked away. I then asked myself. What is my lesson here? Besides, of course, not screaming out loud and making a scene.

Feeling like the scapegoat goes way back to the role I played in my family. I realized I could either buy into that and react or let it go. Does this serve me any longer? Heck no! In the past maybe, but not any more. I checked in with that part of me that was up in arms, listened, comforted and I explained that was an alarm from the past and doesn’t play into the Now. I no longer buy into that pattern. So, I let it go. Harmony restored.

Later I found out he was having a really bad day and just couldn’t hear anymore. It wasn’t about me….imagine that.

Choosing Harmony

It’s funny as I write this blog my fourteen-year-old son is back. Needless to say he is attempting to interrupt my flow of harmony. I am in the moment of writing and he is sitting here distracting my thoughts and words by playing and rough-housing with the dog, play-bickering with his brother (pretty funny actually), throwing himself on the couch next to me, and being silly asking me “what’s wrong, Mom?” “Mom, what’s wrong” over and over again, all in the name of boredom. Bottomline, I choose how I want to feel about it. I have been having fun with him on and off all day so I keep it light. Sure at times it can be annoying, that’s when I give him a chore to do like, “go, take out the trash.” Ah, he’s off. I love being the creator of my own harmony. And the trash got taken out, too!